Choosing a Therapist

So you have decided to start individual counseling? Great! Unfortunately, choosing the right therapist can be difficult. There are many factors to consider and so many different types of therapists out there. Here are my top recommendations of what to think about when you are choosing a therapist.

First, you want to consider the logistics. Where are they located? Are they near you? Do they do virtual counseling or in-person counseling or both? When are they available and when are you available for appointments? Do your schedules somewhat match? Some therapists even provide evening and weekend appointments. (Kessinger Counseling has evening and weekend availability!) Make sure that the logistics match. 

Second, what are they trained in? What do they specialize in? How will they treat the presenting problems? Some therapists choose "bottom up" techniques – for example, teaching relaxation and grounding techniques first. When you are in individual counseling, this approach emphasizes making sure you are 'safe in your body' before deep diving into topics. (This is really helpful for trauma counseling.)

While other therapists use a "top down" approach. Start with what’s in your head and being aware of what are you telling yourself? This approach focuses on what is the self-talk that is happening. There are so many treatment methods and modalities. Make sure you know what treatment methods your therapist is trained in. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one example of this approach. 

Third, think about their personal attributes. Do you want a male therapist or a female therapist? Someone older or younger? Christian or secular therapist? What matters to you? Some men want to only talk to male therapists. But some men may feel more comfortable talking and opening up to a female.  

Last, it’s all about vibes. I truly think you should listen to your instincts when it comes to a therapist. Do you feel safe and comfortable? Or do you feel judged and critiqued?  A good therapist should make you feel safe. This does not mean they will agree with everything you say though. I like to think the best therapists have a great balance of  compassion and kindness mixed with respectful challenging. Ideally, you would choose a therapist that you feel comfortable with AND someone that you feel gives you good feedback, a different perspective, or helpful coping tools to utilize in the future. 

As a side note, it is completely okay to switch therapists. It is okay to try different methods and treatment plans. Some therapists you will work with for a long time, while some therapists you may only need for a season.  

As a client, you are absolutely in control of who you choose. Individual counseling is a whole lot easier when you have the right therapist! Choose thoughtfully and listen to your gut instincts. 

Please note, this information is for educational purposes only. Let us know if you have any questions or concerns!